Three Flavors of Happy

Over the past few weeks I have heard many different definitions of happiness. For a lot of us, happiness means being at peace, living in the moment, or a chosen state of mind. But what really makes for a happy person? Is it their attitude, their life experience, or even their genetics? This past week I have been studying psychologist Richard O’Connor’s Happy at Last, and I have discovered that there is not just one, but three, definitions of happiness.
  1. Vanilla: Happy people are often filled with positive emotions such as excitement, peace, love, and joy.
  2. Chocolate: Happy people rarely have negative emotions like sorrow, depression, resentment, jealousy, and pessimism.
  3. Strawberry: Happy people are happy with their lives. They are not regretful; instead they are grateful. They are happy with their relationships and they are hopeful for the future.
What is interesting is that these three components are very separate yet interdependent of one another. While it is natural that a positive thinker will be less angry and a sad person will be less enthusiastic, these behaviors do not necessarily determine how happy an individual is. To be a happy person, you do not need to fulfill the requirements in all three categories; instead, you can be coined a “happy person” with just one. For example, I am very happy with my life, my relationships, and my future; however, I tend to be a bit worrisome, moody, and high strung. Yet just because I’m not a superstar in the second category, this doesn’t negate my overall happiness. What a relief! So I suppose my happy flavor would be strawberry with a vanilla swirl and a few chocolate chips just to jazz it up a bit. Obviously I need to head to the ice cream parlor since I’m using it as a metaphor for happiness!

So what “flavor” of happy are you?

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

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  1. Hi Lauren,
    Thank you so much for your comment. It means a lot! I LOVE your site! So cute.
    I’ll be adding a new page with all sorts of links here soon &, if you’re interested, I’d like to like you to my page & vise versa. Adding new links to my site to inspire others has always been one of my favorite things to do & your page is definitely inspirational. 🙂 Let me know & thanks again!
    Wishing you the best,
    Amy Croson

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  2. 1. Writing: I have been typing and writing so much lately and because of this, I feel so much more connected to myself. I have always found writing to be such a healing, creative, and expressive process.

    2. Oprah: I love her show! She is someone that I greatly admire for her entrepreneurial success, life experiences, and most importantly, her compassion.

    3. Thai dinner with my parents: We had such a great time conversing tonight and sharing laughs. At the end of the day, I’m glad to share home with them.

    4. Kidnapping: I have the best friends in the world! They surprised me by coming to my house and taking me out for ice cream. So sweet- literally and figuratively!

    5. Bulletproof: I’m obsessed with this new song and we girls had such a great time car-dancing to it!

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