I’ve got two questions for you:
Who talks more? Men or women?
Who interrupts more? Men or women?
Any guesses? If you’re like me, your immediate response would be “women” for both questions. Well, I stand corrected. I’m currently reading Deborah Tannen’s book, You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, and these are just a few of the facts that I’m finding. I have to admit, I was pleasantly surprised.
Too often women are pinned as the “Chatty Cathys.” It’s time to put that stereotype to rest. Because there’s a new order in town: men are the talkers and they won’t shut up, at least not when they have the stage.
Take the boyfriend example. Do you ever notice that when you’re together, just the two of you, he seems meek and mild with little to say? But then once there’s a guest or a party, he becomes the comedian extraordinaire? Well, that’s because men are eager to speak when they have the opportunity to assert their status and express their “one-up” standing in an asymmetrical relationship.
Women on the other hand, prefer to keep their talking under the roof and in the comfort of their own home. The problem with this is that men see their time at home as the time-out for their mouths. See the dilemma here?
So how can we get each other on the same page? And feel happier in the process? Like anything in relationships, I think it takes compromise. Women should speak up for themselves when out in public and men should put down their newspapers and genuinely ask their lady how she’s doing. Make eye contact, turn on their brain, you know. Once we start doing this, maybe everyone will start seeing the statistics for what they are instead of holding women as the chatty champions. Because we actually stand by the sidelines more than you might think.
Speak now! (Ala Taylor Swift)
The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook
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