I love majoring in psychology and communications because nearly every day it warrants a further pursuit of knowledge—for example, are girls truly afraid of success? I’ve now read about this in two places, in Deborah Tannen’s book You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation and in Bernard Weiner’s textbook on Human Motivation. The principle is that women are afraid to succeed because it creates an asymmetry between their peers—it creates competition when women crave community. I get that. But afraid of success? That seems a stretch. If anything, I think we want it more than ever.
With Beyonce’s “Who Run the World” song on the airwaves I think it’s true more than ever—girls are starting to be extremely influential in running in the world. But as I carried on this debate with my boyfriend yesterday—there needs to be a balance. For as much as society tells us that men are the competitive ones, I beg to differ. In my experience, it is the women who can be cat-like competitive. The men are the easy-going ones. It takes two to tango in the ballroom…and when it comes to success.
All the same, this is where women are at a disadvantage. It is natural for men to be competitive—it is nearly expected of them. Their masculinity is equivalent to their desire to lead. But if a woman takes an authoritative stance, she can immediately lose her femininity. It’s a delicate balance between power and prettiness. All the same, I think women are overcoming this together in a community like effort and we are taking a stance for what we believe in. We are just as competent, complex, and compelled to succeed!
Those Spice Girls had an effect on me growing up…GIRL POWER!
The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook
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