In light of Kim Kardashian’s recent wedding…and subsequent divorce (72 days later!!) you have to wonder—where is the love? Perhaps it’s just me, but I think we’re misplacing our happiness in weddings and not in actual marriages. Brides like Kim, who openly say that there were consumed by the dresses, the decorations, the desserts, and the like realize that after they’ve said their “I do’s” they meant to say, “I don’t.” My dad made an interesting comment about this whole ordeal, “It’s an insult to the sanctity of marriage.” I agree. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly and just because you get to wear a pretty dress doesn’t mean that you should walk down the aisle to just anyone. The wedding is more of a symbol of your relationship instead of the center.
I think girls nowadays are getting the wrong ideas about weddings, myself included. But just because we’re getting those ideas doesn’t mean we have to think them. Our generation is flooded by idealized dreams of elaborate gowns (maybe 2 or 3 actually), along with the ornate bouquets, detailed venues, and oh, to do an up-do or to wear your hair down? And the color scheme? We’ve had it planned since we were six. Never mind the groom. Pinterest and Kim’s 10 million dollar wedding didn’t help those fantasies.
But let’s get real. Marriage is SO much more. Weddings are meant to happen once, a partnership is every day. Sure, you can say that your wedding day is the “happiest day of your life” but I hope that is merely one day of many happy days in a marriage. I think we need to start seeing marriages again as something sacred, something truly special. The wedding is just the beginning—not the end all, be all.
I am keeping the box I got from Kim’s wedding though—you know, as a nice little artifact. Ask me if you want to know how I got it!
The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook
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