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When Debbie Downer Arrives

Do you know a Debbie Downer? Or a Chris Complainer? Whatever the name, you get the idea—some people just tend to poo-poo everything. It’s hard to be happy when you’ve got a mope moping around all the time. Whether you are this person or you have a person in your life like this, we have to find ways to conquer the constant carping.

And if you want to get an idea of what Debbie Downers are like—here she is. But as you’ll see, even Debbie has the potential to laugh!

Here are a few Sunny Suggestions to get your Negative Nancy positive again.

1. Be happy by example: Maybe if they see you enjoying life, they’ll start to get the idea. Perhaps you feel guilty for being positive when someone else is down in the dumps. But if they’re constantly in the dumps and it’s not situational, there’s no reason that you should stoop down there with em. Add a little sunshine to their clouds.

2. Don’t feed in to it: If the crappy comments keep coming, don’t condone them. It can be easy to complain right back when you want to be relatable to someone but you’ll soon see that this leads to a vicious cycle of gloom and doom. If Debbie keeps whining away, then just change the subject with something positive.

3. Introduce them to positive people: Downers may need public displays of positivity to get the hint. Once they start seeing that many people prefer positivity over pessimism, they just might want to join along. And if Debbie still doesn’t get it, you don’t have to stay down with her. Spend your time with people who lift you up.

Here’s to making even the Debbies of this world happy!

Keep shining,

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

Finding Out the Secret

While I still haven’t picked up the Hunger Games yet—a serious crime I know—there is a book that has caught my eye the past few days—The Secret. I know it’s been around for a while but for some reason, I feel like this is the perfect time in my life to pick it up—what with an impending graduation and unknown job coming up (okay, it’s a year away but still). Whether or not you believe in an all-powerful universe where a thought can wield enormous power as this book suggests, I believe that there will always be the power of positivity.

So I’m going to give this book a try. I’ll let you know how it goes. My friend gave me a little preview already and she told me that it didn’t necessarily bring her a BMW or a million dollars (hey, even $500 would be nice, right?) but it did change the way she saw the world. She went on to tell me that according to “The Secret,” the universe doesn’t pick up on negatives. Let me explain. So when you make a comment, or even when you think to yourself, “I hope I don’t get a cold,” or “I hope I’m not late,” the universe can’t decipher the message. Instead all it hears is “I hope I get a cold,” or “I hope I’m late.” It might seem like twisted or even pointless psychology but I think there’s a purpose behind it.

As silly as the concept may seem, it could make all the difference in your mindset. Instead of using negatives in your sentences, change them completely. Instead of saying, “I hope I don’t get a cold,” say “I hope I stay healthy,” and instead of “I hope I’m not late,” say, “I hope I’m on time, or better yet, early.” I don’t know about you, but once my friend told me about this concept, I realized that I often do live my life in the negatives. Instead of staying optimistic, it can be easy to fall in to a routine of hopeful “aversion.” Hoping to not get a bad grade, hoping to not gain weight, hoping to not forget an appointment. It’s too much stress and not enough sunshine if you ask me.

So, with that being said, I hope you’ll join me this week in two things. First—to simply become aware of your thoughts. So much of the time our stress is subconscious and doesn’t dawn upon us until it’s too much to bear. Make note of your mentality on a regular basis and observe how you perceive situations. Secondly, if you do find yourself adding unknown and unwanted negatives to your sentences, try to transform your vocabulary. I’m going to give it a go this week and I’m excited to see how this little project will turn out.

Here’s to finding out the secret.

Keep shining,

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

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The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

Bursting the Bubble

If there’s anything I’ve learned from my social network class, it’s that we need to go beyond “the bubble.” As convenient as it may seem that Google and Facebook filter our information to our interests, they are actually doing us a disservice because it prevents us from being exposed to new people and new experiences. Our teacher has made a point to challenge us to go out on a limb—to talk with unfamiliar people and to expose ourselves to new adventures that we may have ignored before.

I took his advice yesterday and I’m so glad that I did. I went to my first ever Greek Crossing breakfast at UCLA where various sorority girls gather together not just as sorority members, but as sisters in Christ. It was so nice to meet more of the faces that I often pass by on a regular basis and put a name to them. As much as I love being a member of my particular house, it was the perfect change of pace to meet some people outside of “my bubble.”

I have to admit though, going to this Greek Crossing event wasn’t too challenging because I wanted to hear one of my mentors and fellow friends, Joanna Hyatt, impart her wisdom. This is the second time I have heard her share the Word and she was just as inspiring as the last time. She spoke about what we need as women—to be wanted, to be needed, to be known—and ultimately to be loved. We all came to the conclusion that God’s love is the most unconditional, true, and everlasting that there is. It is more fulfilling than any love we could ever receive or give on Earth.

No matter what your religion, I can guarantee that you’ll experience more happiness in your life if you break out of your own bubble, whether that’s with your select group of friends, your regular restaurants, or your tried and true workout routine. It doesn’t matter how big or small the change, it really can make all the difference.

What will you do this week to break out of the bubble?

Keep shining,

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

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The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook