Are you living for the day? Note that I didn’t ask you if you were living in the moment. I think that’s nearly impossible. But I think you can live for the delicacies in a day. Rather than putting your energy into an unpredictable future or an overfamiliar past, I think spending our time in the present can lead to the most happiness.
I know this by experience. I have, and probably always will be, somewhat of a forward thinker. I dream about my career goals, married life, and even the possibility of children someday (I’m least decided on that part). But my boyfriend taught me an important lesson that I hope I will take with me wherever I go.
You see, he’s leaving for Columbia Law School in less than three weeks. New York. The big, bad apple. I’m just kidding, I’m sure it will be great but the part that’s not so great? He’s going to be across the country (I’m not even going to count the exact number of miles apart because that will just make it more real). He’s been to the city twice; I’ve been once. This will be interesting.
But exciting. It’s been the weirdest summer because I’ve been waiting for the tears to set in and there have only been a few. Rather than dreading each day that passes by until his departure, I’m really just focusing on enjoying the time together that we have now. Living in the present. He’s told me to do this all along and he’s right—I’ve been so much happier for it.
The best part is that I feel confident about the future. Of course I know it will be hard—I’m not delusional—but I feel strong in our relationship. We’ve been together for two years now and I feel like we’re both committed to making it work. My key to this whole process is to take it day by day. If I harbor this three year tunnel of law school I’ll drown in it. Floating by won’t weigh me down as much.
I’ve lived for the future before and life isn’t nearly as fun. Chances are, you’ll end up disappointed because your expectations can be hard to match with the reality of life sometimes. Don’t get me wrong, it’s always good to set the standard high for yourself but I think there’s something beautiful about taking a day, even the most imperfect one, and still finding something to smile about at the end of it. When you take the time to notice those moments rather than move on to your future, life is so much more real and meaningful.
I hope you’re loving your summer and your life. Of course things will change, within us and around us, but if we are open to it, there will be something to love there as well.
The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook