I’m a huge advocate of self help books and motivational speaking. Heck, I like it so much that I want to make a career out of it. But everyone gets a little skeptical at times of “the power of positivity”—myself included. I mean after all, I’ve always believed that you should allow yourself to feel how you want to feel. Sadness, anger, frustration and all.
But after a summer of truly putting positivity to the test, I’m a firm believer in it. Sure, I’ve let moments of sadness fall upon me; I accept them. But I think the important thing isn’t the emotions themselves, it’s whether or not we choose to wallow in them.
I’m a well known wallower when I want to be. Example: when my boyfriend left for England last summer. I was the queen of the Mopers. I counted the days, I sat by the computer, I stayed at home. Shameful, I know. Not one of my prouder moments.
But this summer I decided it would be different. Said boyfriend is now leaving for Columbia Law School and believe it or not (I can still hardly believe it myself)—I am feeling HAPPY. We’ve had the best time together and I’m actually excited about the future. I’m not afraid of it like I would have been a year ago. I’m not sure if it’s because I feel more confident in our relationship or I’m just choosing a new perspective (I think it’s both), but it feels so much better to just be a little carefree and not feel threatened or afraid.
I think putting positivity into practice, along with some perspective, are essential for a happy life. Sure, there will be moments or days when we’ll just feel down. But don’t settle for that! Take action of your life and choose something better for yourself.
We all have our fair share of miseries but you don’t have to make yourself miserable.
So accept the moments and emotions as they come…and then do something positive about it. Your choice!
The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook