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Why You Shouldn’t “Just Do It”

It’s okay to take your time.

We’re always hearing how we should “just do it” or “go for it!” To not hold back, to be brave, to face our fears. While I think this sounds good on paper, we have to be careful in reality. I say this because I have recently fallen prey to these sayings. And it’s led me to leap without looking ahead. When you don’t consider the potential outcomes and you just go for it, it’s a risk. But we need to be aware of the consequences to these risks, rather than just focusing on the risk itself.

If we don’t do our research and delve into every possibility of a situation, we may have unwanted surprises. While the notion of being fearless can seem commendable, it can quickly turn into stupidity if you don’t plan for the future. We have to consider all the facets of our life before we make a big change—how it will affect us financially, in our relationships, along with our trust in ourselves. While it’s good to go with your gut, you’ve also got to think about how those split-second decisions will affect your life in the long run.

This week I’m working on thinking thoughtfully before I make any big moves. To be a planner with purpose rather than blindly pushing ahead all in the name of progress. It’s okay to go slow, to take your time. Patience is key.

What are you focusing on this week?

Keep shining,

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

The Meaning of Rush

It’s that time of year again…RUSH! For some people the word doesn’t mean much—rushing to an appointment? Rushing to class? It happens to all of us. But for some people RUSH is an entirely different word. It’s that time of the year when collegiate women gather to the pride rock of their campuses (sorority row) for endless conversation, ringing cheers and chants, and maybe if you’re lucky, a chocolate covered graham cracker to go with you strawberry lemonade. Thousands of women, hundred degree weather (at least at UCLA), dozens of parties per day—it’s a whirlwind. And it’s my last year doing it.

You would think I would be relieved to be giving up this pastime. Based on the logistics of the whole extravaganza, I should be. But as a senior, it’s bittersweet. This is my fourth year partaking in this ordeal and while there have been stressful moments, it also reminds me just why I love being in my house. As a Chi Omega we live by The Symphony and it’s why I joined, why I stayed, and I why I will always be a Chi Omega. This creed symbolizes how I want to live my life always.

So tomorrow starts it all. The cheering, yes. The chattering, yes. The smiling, oh yes. But I’m looking forward to it. We are expecting over 1,000 girls to walk through our doors in the next three days and I hope that I’ll be able to offer a small modicum of wisdom as they prepare for the collegiate experience. The time goes by so quickly. While this is the beginning of my goodbye, it is the beginning to their hello. So much to look forward to—I think it’s important to keep that freshman mindset that is open to the possibilities. Just because you’re a senior, or just because you’re older doesn’t mean that you can’t still face the world with a fresh outlook.

Let the parties begin!

Keep shining,

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

Not As Happy as You Used to Be?

Don’t you love when people say, “You look so happy!” It’s nice to hear, isn’t it?

Here’s one thing I don’t love hearing though: “You don’t look as happy as you used to.”

OUCH. Major ouch.

I was told this today and it was a little bit of a shock. When you blog about happiness you start to feel like it’s your job to be happy all the time—as you walk, as you eat, heck, even as you sleep. Live, breathe happiness.

Not. Possible.

The truth is that I’m not as happy lately as I usually am. I should be much more excited for senior year but for some reason I’m really having trouble finding it in me. My boyfriend has been across the country for a month and it’ll be another month until I see him. For this and other reasons, my happiness has found a darn good hiding spot and I’m having trouble finding him.

I guess I just need to decide to seek him out. Right now I’m letting him hide for awhile. I’ll go and get him soon enough. Step one is to stop referring to happiness as a “he.”

So there are a few points I’m trying to make:

1.Don’t say to anyone, “You don’t look as happy as you used to be.” Just don’t. You don’t think they already know that? Thank you for pointing out the obvious. It’s like telling someone they looked like they’ve gained weight. You get the picture.

2. If it’s true that you’re not feeling as happy as you used to be, it may be time to find your happiness in other places. I’m still stuck in the rut of getting happiness from spending time with my boyfriend. Not really possible right now so I need to look elsewhere. There is always happiness to be had, it just may move around as your life does.

3. Don’t give up hope: Just because I’m not my usual happy self doesn’t mean that I’m going to wallow in this. My frame of mind is fleeting and I know brighter days are to come. Just don’t give up this hope because once you do you’ll stop searching for your happiness that eventually wants to be found, sooner rather than later.

So next time you see someone who does seem genuinely happy, compliment them on it. It’s a nice thing to hear. And if someone is looking down in the dumps? Rack your brain for something other than a comment on their happiness. It’s the last thing they want to hear.

Keep shining,

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook

The Sunny Girl, Lauren Cook
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